Money Wisdom #519

 "Trying to root or weed out 'bad' or 'unhealthy' desires only scatters the seeds into darker corners, in which they grow unseen but certainly not unfelt. Conversely, trying to cultivate wholesome desires that we don't organically feel - or which we don't provide a proper context for - is simply a waste of time. In being more conscious of libidinal ecology, I am trying to advocate for a radical reframing of that constellation - desire, lust, love, intimacy - which gets us up in the morning (and at other times keeps us in bed long after we should have gone to work). This is not just a fancy way of promoting 'sex-positivity,' which is trapped in the mirror image of a general cultural 'sex negativity'. Rather, it is a call for us to realize that most of us already, in fact, need and desire an entirely different type of desire: one that does not unfold according to the speeds and rhythms of cybernetic time; one that does not treat people in transactional ways; one that sees outside the shared, fleecy blanket of the dyad; and one that pays homage to the environmental matrix that gave birth to it (the sounds, smells, textures, flavors, and so on). Such a desire - simultaneously centrifugal (in dispersing the ego throughout the world) and centripetal (in bringing the world inside the sensorium) - is not forever smiling, twirling and sighing [...] We will always be bumping our heads and bruising our hearts in the emotional contact sport of libidinal relations. This will never be a safe space. But if we want desire to keep existing in any humanoid form at all, a great reckoning has to take place, at every level; from the self, to the couple, to the family, to the workplace, to the electronic agora, and the international polis, stretched across the globe. We need to relearn desire both for ourselves (rather than be simply instructed what and how to feel, by branding experts) and for others (within a wider conspiracy of compassion, that refuses both narcissism and the bitter jouissance of self-sacrifice). 

Dominic Pettman, Peak Libido - Sex, Ecology and the Collapse of Desire (2021)

Money Wisdom #518

 "Roland Barthes makes at east two crucial points in his lecture series How We Live Together. The first is that while we have thought and written much about the individual qua mass society, and vice versa, we have historically paid scant attention to the important scale of the medium-size group. The school, the office, the monastery, the commune. Perhaps this blind-spot - which, after all, is where most of us spend our quotidian lives - is also an opportunity, when it comes to rethinking sociality as the basis for rethinking society itself. Bathe's other point is that those in power always begin by imposing a rhythm. There is thus a certain tyranny, albeit to different degrees, expressed in our motions and movements, our thoughts and actions, What if - together - we started at the level of the 'idiorhythmy': the singular counter-rhythm tailored to our own will and purpose? What if we consciously sought to recompose social relations according to a far less controlling, less relentless, and more imaginative logic, choreography and time signature?" 

Dominic Pettman, Peak Libido - Sex, Ecology and the Collapse of Desire (2021)

Money Wisdom #517

 "... the orange man's demonstrative ugliness somehow ironically masks the high-fructose aspirations that that global gangster, Capital, animates in all our breasts, albeit to different degrees.
   The temptation of the ethically inclined is thus to rise above this ever-expanding sewer of lust, and nurture what is considered wholesome or 'pure' in us instead. But this would be a negative and puritanical form of reaction, and would, in its way, 'let the terrorists win'. We must not succumb, either personally or publicly, to a pernicious and life-negating desiraphobia (which can, perversely, provide its own inverted simulation of erotic pleasure, without any of the sustenance). We must not retreat into defensive postures and emotional austerities. Old powerful white men do not care about your well-meaning composting drives, your progressive book clubs, your neo-Calvinist sublimations, or your libidinal austerity measures. They are not threatened by your politically nuanced sanctimony, for the simple reason that craven heedless hedonism will always triumph against it, so long as these are the bleak alternatives on offer. Instead, we should fight the corrupt pleasures with compassionate bliss bombs. (Com-passion being a form of collective affective intensity.) We must crash and sabotage the bunga bunga party. We must crash and sabotage the Eyes Wide Shut Orgy, in order to improvise less exclusive (and far more exotic) forms of sensual sociality."

Dominic Pettman, Peak Libido - Sex, Ecology and the Collapse of Desire (2021)